Twenty Something Confessions: A Few Thoughts on “Putting Yourself Out There”

My journal is black and white and filled with mixed emotions.

The cover is graced with an old photo of Marilyn Monroe (We share the same birthday. I adore her) and was given to me by a dear friend back in college. I write occasionally when something is really on my mind. This post started out as an entry in that journal. Due to the nature of the entry, I decided to post it on my blog and share it with all of you in hopes to provide insight, inspiration and enlightenment (and hopefully not annoyance).

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(My journal isn’t like this, I swear).

I have been doing a lot of thinking about what it means to grow as a person—on a spiritual, physical, career and emotional level. Depending on your parents, you were raised in a certain way. Some parents tell kids to go for they you want. You can do anything you put your mind to, son! This is often a characteristic rumored to be instilled in Millennials like myself. You may have grown up differently. You may have been told that you should go for what you know you can achieve or stick to a plan and don’t color outside the lines. Go to college, get your degree in four years, get that corporate job and a house in the suburbs. What more could you want, kid?

Or you may have been raised with a little bit of both, like me. I go after what I want but I tend to play it more on the safe side in some instances. I’m a dreamer but I’m “realistic.” I’m willing to put myself out there if I’m pretty sure about the outcome.

In this day in age, there is a fine line between getting what you want and staying in line. We put ourselves out there to be disappointed, discouraged by failure or surprised at what we have gained by throwing caution to the wind.

For me personally, 2012 has been dedicated to no regrets. It’s March and I can say I’ve followed my heart and told my sometimes Type A, typical oldest child, perfectionist mind to pipe down and basically, just go get it girl! What I’ve found is that it may seem easy to do, but for some (like me) surrendering to the unknown can be scary, nerve racking and just plain messy. On the flip side, I think it is essential for twenty something’s to experience.

Everyone has different values, circumstances, opportunities, instances and vehicles for growth. A few thoughts on “putting yourself out there.”

• Would you rather try and know or not try and wonder what could have been? You know in your heart what you want. Don’t let what others tell you hold you back. Most importantly, don’t let the thoughts you tell yourself hold you back.
• So you put yourself out there and it sucked. You applied for that new job and got rejected, you went for the guy and he wasn’t interested, you told someone what you really thought and you weren’t accepted. Great, do it again. What matters isn’t the success or the failure, its what you have gained from the experience and how you can grow. Maybe it made you realize what great friends you have when they were there for you as you were freaking out, maybe you grew stronger by enduring the pain of having to move on, perhaps you even realized that you may have some work to do on yourself. It’s not the success or the failures it truly is the lesson learned.
• Faith really is everything. I’m not just talking about religious faith. I’m talking about faith in your abilities and yourself. You can’t change how others treat you but you can control how you react. No matter what you endure by putting yourself and your thoughts out there, never lose faith in yourself.

While breaking conventions and putting yourself out there can be trying, I believe it is essential for individuals and especially young adults to pave their own paths.

I challenge you. Be brave. Be courageous. Put yourself out there in a way that means something to you.

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Like I said, it will most likely be scary, nerve racking and just plain messy, but have faith and you will see that the lessons learned will shape you into a more whole and self-aware adult.

Let me know what you learn!

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